FUEL YOUR MIND

 FUEL YOUR MIND

what to say

 Some vs. Any

We were taught, from the very first years of studying English, that 'any' and 'some' can be used in similar sentences. However, conversation analysts have come to the conclusion that 'any' usually meets with resistance.

WHAT NOT TO SAY

Avoid using 'Just'

When writing emails or even in speaking, individuals, tend to use quite a lot the word 'just'; while it is a polite term, 'just' suggests also insecurity and the need to ask for permission. Therefore, whenever you are try to show some authority, go for another word. It is safer.

Avoid asking 'How are you?'

Even though most of us perceive the usual 'How are you?' question as being very polite and necessary, recent research has shown that, on the contrary, this irritates the other person. As it is only a formal and, therefore, cold way to establish a first connection, better just drop it and get straight to the point, instead of prolongating a small talk that is totally unnecessary.

WHAT TO SAY

Speak vs. Talk

While the two verbs are totally synonyms, their use has quite a different impact on people. Therefore, when you invite someone 'to talk', studies have shown that you are more prone to meet resistance than when you just propose them 'to speak’. The first verb, it seems, is often associated with the idea of not paying enough attention to the other person's words.